NO! NAY! NEVER! NEVER REPORT TO THE CHURCH FIRST!
THAT IS OUR SUGGESTION AFTER 36 YEARS OF TRYING TO HELP WOMEN.
Today the BostonHerald.com article reported that Cardinal O'Malley suggests abuse victims turn to an anonymous third-party system for reporting sexual abuse by cardinals and bishops!
NEWS FLASH!!! Citizens have a third party to whom criminal activity needs to be reported, and that is the police and legal system. Our experience with women who have been abused, mothers of children of priests who have tried to work within the Church first have found themselves treated unjustly.
PLEASE go to the police and get yourself an attorney and do not depend upon the Church or anyone paid by the Church to attend to you or your needs or concerns. Obviously if you, out of sentiment, or devout fidelity to your Faith, want to inform the Church as well, that is your decision, but take it from the women who have had years of experience, protect yourself (and your child if that applies.
Here is one legal guide published by Attorney Ron Sarno in New Jersey for mothers of the children of priests. You may be in love, but take care of your child's rights...
Protect yourself and if you have the child of a priest, for God's sake protect that child's rights.